A post specially dedicated to mommas battling with Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG).
In one of my previous posts, I used the hashtag #hyperemesisgravidarum
and received responses from HG support groups and people who are currently supporting their loved one going through HG. I’m so glad that slowly but surely, HG is getting more of its much needed awareness now.
Back when I was struggling with HG, I felt so lost and constantly overwhelmed by guilt and confusion. Almost no one around me knew about HG and it didn’t help that even medical practitioners were undermining HG and constantly brushing it off as “morning sickness”. While HG is an extreme case of severe morning sickness, it doesn’t only happen in the morning, and it isn’t just a mild sickness or discomfort.
When everyone around you referred to HG as #morningsickness
and told you that it should go away after the first trimester (for me, it didn’t) and to just take some crackers/ginger tea/sour plum/Coke/etc, yet nothing helped to stop your #nausea
(I’m talking about throwing up 5-20 times a day, it can be worse for other HG moms), you’d start hating your body and questioning why you are so weak. Why does everyone else who had morning sickness able to go on life as usual but you can’t? Why is your body failing you?
Only HG moms will understand that these phrases can be hurtful to fellow HG moms - “Pregnancy is not a disability” or “It’s all in your mind”. Because we are not delusional or overreacting, HG is real and it can cause one to be temporarily “handicapped” when throwing up is all you do the whole day.
HG robs away the joy of pregnancy, causes so much guilt, heartache and self doubt, and as much as you know that there is light at the end of the challenging 9-month tunnel, it’s difficult to imagine that day to come when you are in the middle of suffering through HG. HG messes up your mind so much that on the rare good days that you are not throwing up, you are worried if your baby is OK, you will wonder if you are still pregnant because HG pregnancy is the only kind of #pregnancy
you know and you’ve adjusted to that as your new normal.