self worth and love: it’s everything. maslows hierarchy of needs states that one must achieve a level of self esteem before they can reach self actualization, or the desire to be the most one can be. this has been maybe my biggest struggle - we do not create negative schemas by ourselves, they are placed in our head. our upbringing, media, relationships - they all affect the way we view ourselves and once these views are shaped negative energy only grows exponentially, building off of itself. throughout the past few years i’ve had my share of identity crises and constant wonderments of my worth, seeking validation wherever i could. it takes time, it takes reinforcement, and it’s an everlasting process, but at the end of the day if i am proud of myself that’s all that matters. i always thought it was bullshit when people said self love is the most important but i look at it like this: i could have thousands of people constantly showering me with compliments and validation, but if i’m not happy with myself that can only do so much. yes, compliments are nice, admiration is nice, approval is nice - that’s human nature - but look at yourself. are you happy with the person you are? that’s the only opinion that’s going to give you the fulfillment you desire.