To forgive is to FORE-GIVE, to give of yourself so completely to the new you that there is no room for the old, and thus it must be forgotten.
It is to die to yourself in light of every mistake, and instead of beating the drum of pity, remorse, regret or grudges, your focus is on BEING reborn as that new you.
To regret is to wish you were different back then, instead of choosing to be different right now. To do otherwise is to find yourself repeating the same old mistakes dispite wanting to change.
REAL change comes from a REAL decison to be better than you were before and to accept NO excuses for who you must BE.
To forgive is to forget in light of correcting your own errors and to become the ideal that you desire to be.
It is not about wishing someone else was different for their part in YOUR play, but about changing oneself, because there is no one else to change but you.
It is easy to forgive yourself and others when you realize that who you are in any drama is the byproduct of who you WERE and up to that point, circumstances could not have happened any other way BECAUSE different people act different and live differently.
So, if you desire different results, BE different.
Let your difference in behavior be the hallmark of true forgiveness.
Anything less than exceptional is a delusion. ✌