Spiritual attunement is a practice. Spiritual healing is a lifestyle. Both take time and both require compassion and patience.
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The dialogue around self-love and its presence or absence in one's life as an indicator of whether they can be loved needs to stop now. I used to believe this and even advocate for it, but now that I’ve come a long way in my own healing journey, I understand that it’s not only a dangerous concept, it’s simply not true.
Sure, if we've come out of an emotionally abusive relationship, we definitely need to do some inner work so that we don't go from the frying pan into the fire. Most of this work consists of creating boundaries and healing attachment trauma. It means keeping yourself OUT of unsafe relationships.
But to tell anyone, especially abuse survivors, that they need to learn to love themselves before anyone can love them is not only abusive, it's a sad form of spiritual bypassing.
Imagine telling young children this as they are in their developmental years. In some states, you might have your children taken away from you because this would be considered emotional abuse.
Yet, every day, we see so-called spiritual gurus and those who consider themselves "woke" telling everyone who will listen that they must love themselves first if they ever hope to have other people love them.
What a load of BS.
This is causing unknown levels of suffering in the world. It makes people give up on themselves and on life. This is partly why loneliness is the new epidemic. People who feel down on themselves figure they may as well not even try. And it plants the seed in their mind that since they don't love themselves, no one else does, either. It's brainwashing, plain and simple.
By the way, loneliness puts us at risk of early death - studies say it's the same as smoking 15 cigarettes a day! So all the self-righteous gurus need to come down off their clouds, get real, and stop appropriating people's suffering.
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