• Via: @drcarlikody
Naturally we would all like to forget parts of our stories that were painful. Being excluded is one of those pains that everyone knows on some level. It’s a terrible feeling.
To matter, to be accepted and valued, is a universal human need.
Please don’t hide or disown the heartbreaking parts of your story. When we do so, we just end up subconsciously driven by our pain. In avoiding it, it defines us. The pain rules our choices and the ways we armor up. Rather than keeping us safe, armor keeps us from living fully. When we try to opt out of the hard, painful stuff, we inevitably opt out of the good stuff too, like love and connection.
That’s how armor works with vulnerability. It shuts everything out, even the things we long for. If you don’t believe me, check out @brenebrown
‘s research. This is science and human wiring, not my opinion.
Instead of avoiding, hold your hurts in your hands and get to know them like sacred parts of your story. Pain is something every single human being knows. It’s in these parts of your story that you’re connected to others. This is shared humanity. You’re not alone.
Be curious. What are the emotions here? How did you get through this when it happened? What still needs to heal? What is the wisdom you’ve gained through this? Examine and explore your resilience. Use your desire to be loved and accepted to have compassion for others. Use your hurts to inform your dedication to kindness and why it’s so darn important to treat everyone with respect.
Please remember what it was like to be excluded and help build a kinder, more inclusive community around you. You have the power to make big difference.
I believe in us.
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